Tuesday 30 July 2019

What if there was a fun easy way to get what you want?







What if I told you that there is no need to work hard, sacrifice and delay gratification till some distant time in the future?  What if I told you that selling was meant to be fun, easy and abundant?   

What if I told you that asking hypothetical questions could influence how other people will act? The way that you ask questions can be highly persuasive especially if the question starts with the words, ‘what if.’    

Why it works…

The brain processes‘what if’ as if it isn’t even there.   So people are processing your question as if it were fact according to recent research from the University of Alberta.  Think about that?

Lets have some fun and run through a few examples of how you might use this seductively simple persuasion technique..

1)  A realtor wants to get a listing on a home.

E.G.   “What if I told you that I could get your home sold quicker and for more money by using our companies  unique marketing system?”

Why it works?    

If you dropped the ‘what if’  and just said, ‘I can sell your home quicker for more money by using our unique marketing system.’   The client would most likely be thinking to herself…‘yeah right, that’s what they all say’.  

 But if you precede the statement with ‘what if’  then the client allows the information into her brain without resistance and wonders to herself how might that be possible?  The realtor now has an open door to continue the persuasion because she is now considering it as a possibility. 

2)  You want a client to sign up for your weight loss program.

E.G.   What if you could lose 20 lbs before Christmas and you could eat as much as you like?

Why it works? 

Again it gets past the resistance by not phrasing it in a way that would be perceived as a sales pitch.   The client can’t help but imagine it being possible to lose those 20 lbs by Christmas.   Remember you haven’t directly asked for the sale you have just proposed a possibility.   The clients response will dictate how you react.   If you’ve gained their interest with your ‘what if’ question the sale is half done.   

3)   The car sales person says, what if we could get the financing approved this afternoon and you could drive that beautiful SUV home today?

Why it works?

The buyer might start imagining his jealous friends reactions to his beautiful new machine.  Or the feeling of pride driving home and parking it in front of his home for all the neighbours to admire. In short, the ’what if’ question causes him to mentally take ownership of the car.  

Of course this will only work if your ’what if’ question is received as credible and plausible.  

Will this work all of the time?   No, nothing works all of the time despite what the self help Guru’s try to peddle us.  But you will be surprised how often it works like magic.   

Beyond the obvious..

Using ‘what if’ questions is a beautiful way to avoid flat out rejection because it is only a ‘what if’.   If you don’t get a yes, you can re-phrase it and try again a little later.

What if you were to hit the facebook share button below, because it would make me happier than a mosquito at a nudist camp?


Friday 19 July 2019

The Magical Power Of Praise


The Magical Power Of Praise


"The power of a good compliment is limited only by its lack of use"

A good compliment is a wonderful gift that costs the giver nothing and  makes both the receiver and giver feel good.    It can also make you more like-able and lead to;  friendship, love and new business opportunities.

When you make someone feel good about themselves, they will credit you giving them a good feeling.  It is  a gift that triggers reciprocity.   Reciprocity is when you feel the need to repay a gift, kindness or favour and often with something greater than what you got.  This doesn't happen all of the time but frequent enough that it is a terrific investment.






"Most people give out compliments like it was coming straight out of their bank account"

We all have three great emotional needs;  acceptance, appreciation and attention.   A good compliment can fill all of those needs.   So why be stingy?   Knowing how to deliver a terrific and timely compliment can be good for business and even make you a better human being.   In any relationship (personal or business) a sincere compliment is the applause that refreshes.   

Prepare to praise and prepare to be rewarded for it   

A good compliment should be in your tool box of persuasion techniques.   It can lower a client's resistance instantly and cause them to give you a serious look.   It's hard to find a rapport building technique that works faster than a compliment, so why not prepare to praise.  Before you next big client meeting ask yourself, what can I compliment them on?   Knowing what you are going to say ahead of time will make it easier for you to slip  it into the flow of the conversation.   
  
A business building compliment

Done right this is a form of a compliment that most don't think of but can be very productive.   Ask for advice.   Asking for advice is a way of saying that the other person has expertise above and beyond others.   It causes the other person to think better of you, since you were obviously smart enough to seek their wise counsel.    Just don't make the mistake of asking for advice on something the other person is not  great at.   Then their estimation of you can drop. 

A terrific first impression

If you know you are about to be introduced to someone, scan for something to compliment them on.   Instant like-ability!    Imagine you are being introduced to a guy and he say's something like this,  'I'm really happy to meet you Mary, I couldn't help but notice that everyone here seems to  hold you in such high respect.'   How could you not like someone who says that?

One more thing...

Always use their name when giving a compliment.   We love to hear people say our name.    It personalizes the compliment and increases it's attention getting powers.   Most people don't think to do this but then you are not most people, right? 

How to build your business and become a better person?

Compliment everyone!  Don't just save your compliments for important people or people who can help you. Remember what I said earlier?    Some people throw around compliments like it was coming out of their bank account.    A compliment is a gift, it costs nothing so be generous.   

Some folks go through life rarely hearing any kind of praise.   That's kind of sad.   So make the world a better and kinder place by looking for something/anything to praise others for.  Make it a habit because it will make you a better person in the process.  Be the one that others see as kind and generous.   It cost nothing and yet can make someone's day.  

Compliment the President of the company and the beggar on the street because it will make their day and yours too!   Make it a habit.  If you like something, say something!

Advice from John Gottman the expert on making relationships last

Gottman's research has identified the magic ration of 5 to 1.    For every criticism you need to have 5 positive things to say to your spouse in order to maintain a long term happy relationship.   I'm thinking this is not only good advice for couples but for your employees, customers and peers as well.  

5 compliments a day makes your troubles go away

Ok, I just made that up however it makes good sense to me.   We need to make praise a habit.   So practice on everyone and judge for yourself the results?   I tried this for 30 days and here is what I witnessed...

*  People seemed happier to see me

*  I made a lot of people smile

* Clients lost their resistance to hearing my ideas and proposals (more persuasive).

*  People like to do things for me! 

* I was called;  charming, nice, kind (and a flirt) 

Compliments make you appear self confident

A person without confidence will rarely if ever hand out a compliment.   They don't want to draw attention to themselves.  A confident person values his own opinion and that's what you show when you give a compliment, confidence!

Did you know..

That a request preceded by a compliment increases the  percentages of getting what you want by 16%?  So if you are in business or sales you can give yourself a 16% pay increase by mastering the practice of giving compliments.  Let that sink in!

So what have we learned?

1.  A good compliment is a gift

2.  Prepare to praise

3.  Compliments can help you make a terrific first impression

4.  Always attach their first name to the compliment

5.  Compliment everyone (it's good for business and your soul)

6.  The magical ratio for relationships is 5 compliments to 1 criticism

7.  The giver of compliments appears to be self confident


BONUS..  You may be perceived as a flirt!   (that's ok I can deal with that...haha)




















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